11.03.2014

Their love ...


I had never been to a mortuary to plan the funeral of anyone.

Their wedding day, December 13, 1997.
You set the date and immediately jump into making decisions. 

Tiffany made those decisions with a graceful ease.

Tiffany somehow knew which flowers to choose ... And going from casket to casket, the moment she saw a specific one, she just knew that it was the one.

She even knew which decisions not to make there, as none of program templates conveyed what was needed to be conveyed.

At one point, someone asked her about a specific detail, "Well, what would Steve like?"

Her response, "He just loved whatever I loved."

And it was true. That was IS one of the beauties of their marriage and relationship, he was just so happy, making her happy. He truly loved whatever she loved. 

I love the way those two love each other. It has been one of my greatest blessings in this life to be a witness to it. It has been beautiful to see that love continue to manifest itself from both sides of the veil ... a love for all time and eternity, something Steve would refer to as, "Best.phrase.ever."  And, oh isn't he right!

3 comments:

Amy Fashion Blog said...

I loved how you sister anwsered the question. Now that your family is in my thoughts and prayer.

The Suzzzz said...

I know how difficult it is to lose someone close to you in such an unexpected way. It doesn't seem like it right now, but that feeling of lose and unbalance (almost like missing a limb and feeling a bit helpless because of it) starts to heal with time. It never goes away and sometimes after a long stretch of time without thinking about it, it comes back to blindside you out of the blue...but I promise, it does get better.

While that process takes place, remember that it's OK to be happy without them, it's OK to miss them and move on at the same time, it's OK to make plans and get excited about stuff...even when it doesn't feel like it's OK, and the reason why is because your lost loved one WANTS you to be happy and to progress in your life. They don't want you to be miserable, lost, and in pain because they aren't there.

Missy W. said...

I've loved hearing your stories about Steve and getting to know him a little better. What an amazing person he was.

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